October Objectives

They say that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. And while that may be a bit extreme for the point I’m making, it is nevertheless a fairly accurate summation.


I have every good intention to use to these monthly objectives as stepping stones to completing larger, overarching goals. But when it gets to the end of the month I look back to see that not much progress was made. There is a disconnect somewhere, and until it is identified and corrected, I’m going to be like a hamster running on a wheel.


It was time for some reflection, to take some time to look back in order to be able to move forward. Finally, an epiphany began to take hold. You see, for the longest time I thought that the root of the problem was the inability to control myself when it came to certain things. After all, I will be the first to admit that while I am methodical, I am not above reacting on pure impulse at times. But then it began to down on me that the issue was two-fold. Yes, I needed to work on controlling my (bad) impulses. But I also need to hold myself more accountable. Making excuses and feeling sorry for myself will get me nowhere. By controlling myself, I can exit amazon.com before I buy the unnecessary <insert random purchase>. By controlling myself, I can turn down seconds during dinner at my parents’ house. By holding myself accountable, I can have enough respect for myself to do the right thing, whatever that may be. By holding myself accountable, I can make decisions that facilitate success in my life.


I’m only human, and a flawed one at that. I am not looking to cut out everything that is fun and delicious and wonderful and what makes being on this planet worthwhile. I’m not about that life. But there will be days where I indulge in some comfort food or a dessert. There will be days where I veg out on the couch with some Netflix instead of writing.  But now, instead of wallowing in the guilt of having slipped up or using it as an excuse to slip up more, I need to use that as motivation to do better tomorrow, or with some control (see what I did there), not indulge too much.


That being said, with this new and improved mindset, I’ve decided to extend my September objectives into October, with some minor modifications.


  1. Practice mindful eating more actively. This isn’t changing. I’ve given myself the goal to lose 17 pounds by year-end and this is definitely a major player in accomplishing that
  2. Be more effective in time management.
  3. I’ve decided to participate in NaNoWriMo this November as a way to jumpstart the ideas I have for some short stories. While I’m not writing a novel at this point, I am still going to try and accomplish the 50,000 goal. That will give me plenty of material to work with and hopefully mold into a working story.


October is probably my favorite month of the year. The new chill in the air, the crunch of leaves beneath my feet, I find it all invigorating for mind and spirit. So I’m moving forward with rejuvenated perspective and steely determination. After a year of feeling unmotivated and apathetic, I have made it my mission to make up as much ground as possible these last three months.


August Review and September Objectives

I started out August strong. I was doing well until I came to the realization that I needed to buy new running shoes. With two different running trails literally right across the street from my house, it only makes sense to utilize these resources to help me get back on track with my fitness. But with me, shopping is a slippery slope and soon I was justifying other purchases. While nothing was completely frivolous, all in all I think I spent about $200-250. There is progress still to be made in controlling my spending, but considering my past history, this was definitely a step in the right direction.

Since last December my weight has been one of my biggest struggles. It’s been incredibly frustrating, at times dragging down my normally positive and upbeat personality. Weight loss has always been a mental game with me, and I think I’ve finally had the epiphany that will help me to the corner and get back to how I was feeling this time year, which was absolutely amazing. The number on the scale is not going to be 6 lesser by the time I leave for Chicago on Thursday, but I’ve made strides to get myself to a place where I will start to see the results I’ve been desperately seeking.

And I’ll be completely honest, I kept completely forgetting what my third goal was. I suck, I know.

So I got myself onto the right track by setting firm but obtainable goals last month. But if I want to be continually successful is achieving them I have to have the understanding with myself that exceptions are not allowed unless there are extenuating circumstances. I can do better. I will do better.

With that said, here are my September Objectives.

Objective #1: Practice mindful eating more actively. I’ve been reading a book that talks about mindful eating and many of the principles resonated with me. The great thing about these principles is that they are easy enough to incorporate into your daily habits as long as you actively work at them. With time and practice, they will become second nature. These mindful eating practices will help me to control my overeating and indulging tendencies, and when I control that, I will easily and effectively cut several hundred calories daily. Sustained weight loss and a healthier lifestyle is accomplished through long-term changes in your habits, not by diets and quick-fix solutions.

Objective #2: be more effective at time management, take 2. Something I’ve read time and time again in articles and posts about time management is taking time once a week to plan out ones activities and things that need to be accomplished. This does not mean micromanaging, per se, but it means making sure I have a clear idea of what needs done for the week. One thing that I love about my life is the fact that I have the freedom to do what I want when I want, but outside of firmly scheduled obligations, it can be easy to say oh I’ll do that later, and soon enough the ‘do it later’ list is a mile long.

Objective #3: I do not consider myself a professional writer in any sense of the word. For a long time now, years in fact, I’ve wanted to write an original short story but my insecurities have kept me from even seriously considering this. By exploring my creativity and writing abilities, I’ve found that my confidence has grown and I’m ready to see what I can do. I’m not quitting my day job to become a writer. I do not expect to make waves or get published. Hell, I don’t even expect anyone to read what I write. But a lot can be said for the satisfaction that comes from fulfilling one’s dreams.

I am not perfect, I will make (many) mistakes. Every step, every stumble, is all a part of the process. It’s how we learn, its how we get better.

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. And I’m nothing if not persistent. 

August Objectives- Quick Update

One of the bigger goals I set for August was no spending outside of the essentials. A relatively easy task, yes, but I am 100% an impulse buyer. I see something, I buy it. I get bored, I go browsing around online. It never ends well for my wallet.

Twice now, I have made myself walk away from something I wanted to buy but absolutely did not need. It’s so much harder to do that in real life than it is online where you can just exit the browser. It shows I know what the responsible thing is to do, it shows I’m capable of not throwing my money away on frivolous finds. I was so proud of myself that I just had to do a quick post.

I ran to the store yesterday on my lunch break to grab a few things. I cut across  the office supply aisle, and, wouldn’t you know it, there was a display of 5×7 notebooks with old school Marvel Comics cover. Not only am I an office supply addict, but notebooks and stationary are my kryptonite. And only $5! How could I not get them? Into the cart two of them went and on my merry little way I went. I didn’t even get to the end of the aisle before I stopped and realized that I couldn’t do this. I had no immediate, specific purpose for them (other than the fact that they were so much fun) and therefore couldn’t justify buying them. Placing them back on the shelf if felt like they weighed a ton. But by cheating on my goals I only cheat myself in the end. And that makes no sense.

Then today I ran to Kohl’s on my lunch break to return a few shirts. I had time to waste and nothing else to do so I just walked around. I found a cute crossbody/clutch on clearance. I’ve been wanting  a new one so I picked it up and went to check out. But I kid you not, I was in line having a very loud yet internal debate with myself about this stupid $12 clutch. I finally made myself turnaround and take the clutch back to the handbag department. Just because this one was on clearance does not mean that I have to buy it.

It’s an old adage but it holds true- if you put your mind to it, you can accomplish almost anything. If I put my mind to it that I don’t buy things that I don’t need (instead of making an excuse to justify the purchase), and I act accordingly when the need arises, eventually it will be habit. I’m not saying I’m going to stop shopping all together but I need to learn to control my impulse buying, to make more responsible spending decisions. These last two days have shown me that I’m capable of that. Let’s hope I hold strong to finish out the month!


August Objectives

Try as I might, I’ve been pretty lackluster so far in my attempts to buckle down and get serious with various pursuits. This is in part due to a combination of poor effort, lack of accountability, and too much ambiguity in what I was trying to achieve. It’s something I’ve been struggling with for several months now. I can’t quite pin down the exact root of the issue but all I know is that I’m sick of it. So I’ve decided to take a page out of some of my fellow bloggers books’ and start a monthly goals post.

Objective #1: For the month of August, I will not buy anything outside of the necessities. No online shopping, no random trips to the mall or Target, no Amazon orders. My discretionary spending has been out of control the last three months. I sat down and actually figured it all up and honest to god nearly had a heart attack. 90% of the things I bought were pure indulgences. And while that is okay (especially for someone who is single and not behind on their bills), the extent to which I’ve done it has crossed into ridiculousness. Every penny that I save will add to account I use for cons and trips. Not only that but I’m working on rebuilding the savings that was spent down after buying a house last year.

Objective #2: Lose 6 pounds before ChiCon. My weight is something I’ve struggled with for many years. About two years ago I started to be more conscious about the amount I was eating and exercising. By this time last year I had lost 40 pounds and I felt great. Then winter hit and I stopped going to gym consistently like I had been. By the time spring arrived, I had lost pretty much all motivation for working out. Over the course of those 3-5 months I gained back about 15 pounds and I can tell. What’s more disturbing is that that I can see myself falling back into my old, bad habits. The changes I had made those two years ago were not drastic by any means. It’s just a matter of willpower to start making the right choices again. Six pounds is completely doable and will hopefully get me back to where I was and eventually making even more progress.

Objective #3: Be more effective at time management. Unless I have a specific project to complete or deadline to meet, time management is not my forte. And it doesn’t help that I can tend towards being lazy. I’ve gotten in the bad habit of only doing one thing each evening. Once that’s done, I pretty much veg out for the rest of the night, regardless of what time it is. And while downtime is essential to my mental health, there is plenty of room to add other activities. Whether it’s going back to the gym, doing some writing, DIY around the house, there is no excuse for spending so much time not doing anything. I need to realize that there is nothing wrong with having and maintaining a schedule for all aspects of my life. If it’s what will help me achieve my goals, whatever they may be, then it’s well worth the micromanagement.

We all occasionally need a push or nudge that gets us going back in the right direction. I had thought that happened earlier this summer but apparently that nudge wasn’t strong enough. Various conversations and some personal insights have hopefully given me the major kick in the ass that I need so I can get back on track. I’m ready and I’m hopeful, so here we go!

Do you have any goals that you’re working on? Or is there a goal you’ve reached that you’re proud of? Let me know in the comments!



Back in the Saddle Again

Last week, I started to write about how I was having an existential crisis regarding how I was spending my free time. I ended up abandoning that post because I felt like I was unable to properly express the inner turmoil I was having. And I didn’t want to come across sounding like a whiny bitch.

You see, I’ve been in a strop of sorts since December. It has been taking an uncharacteristic amount of effort for me to be productive. Between house and yard work, writing for the blog, trying to start a local chapter of Geek Girl Brunch, and a few other things, I feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day for me to put my best effort into these things. I know that this is a feeling that everyone experiences, but for a perfectionists and a person with OCD, it’s the devil. It was getting to the point where I thought I was going to have to start micromanaging my evenings in order to start making advances in the things I want to do and complete.

I think this is a lot of the reason why I haven’t posted in a while. This blog is really important with me and there is so much I want to accomplish with it. There is always that small yet constant fear that this endeavor is going to be another failure.

Then, with an innocuous conversation I was having with my favorite coworker, I suddenly (and finally) realized that I had nothing to stress about.

Here’s a recap of the conversation.

This coworker and I were having one out of normal random chit chat sessions. It started innocently enough by talking about how you could tell summer was around the corner because of how late it stayed light outside. I commented on how during the previous I had gone upstairs to read and thought to myself that I couldn’t believe how light it still was at 8”30My coworker paused sand then looked at my intently. He said he couldn’t imagine sitting and being able to pick and choose what he was or wasn’t going to do for the night. He was actually envious of my ability to choose whether I was going to go to work in the yard or go for a bike ride, or if I was going to lose myself between the pages of a book, or if I was just going to veg out and watch TV all evening. I admitted that while I’m super appreciative of it, it’s also something I do take for granted

I won’t bore you with all the details, but the conversation was an enlightening one and that particular revelation blew my mind. It was the change in perspective that I needed as I had lost my own.

One of the things I enjoy most about being single is that I can be selfish with a lot of things, and especially my time. And that is completely okay!

I can have a hard time reconciling when I think things should get done versus when they actually get done, especially when there is no real or expressed deadline; depending on the things, I can tend to view that as a failure. Just because I don’t post every few days or every week, it doesn’t mean the blog is a failure. Just because I haven’t gotten GGB completely up and running doesn’t mean it is a failure. Just because I haven’t gone to the gym in a while doesn’t mean I’m lazy. As long as I continue to do what makes me happy, in whatever capacity that is, it’s not a failure.

At the end of all of this, I came up with a set of guiding principles for the things I’m trying to achieve that aren’t going to happen overnight. I thought I’d share the two main ones I established for the blog:

1.       Write often. Many of my favorite writers have said that one of the best things you can do is write every day. While I may not be writing fiction, the principle holds true. My goal is to write something, whether it’s a quick blerb or a full post, a few times per week.

2.       Every post doesn’t have to be 3000 words. As long as it is adding value, that’s what counts.

Perspective is the key to a lot of things in life. Whether is refreshing the existing or gaining some new, it’s how we move forward in life. Here’s to hoping that my updated perspective helps me tap back into my creativity and perseverance in order to achieve my geeky goals.